From Gaslight to Daylight

Relationships | Narcissistic Abuse | By Hollie Marble Friendship Breakups Narcissists Aren't Just Romantic Partners | From Gaslight to Daylight Some losses do not come with a name, a ritual, or a socially acceptable amount of grief. Losing a toxic best friend is one of them. Some friendships feel like being found. That is part of why losing them can hurt so much. We talk a lot about narcissistic partners. Boyfriends. Husbands. Exes who made you question your sanity and then had the nerve to tell everyone you were the problem. And yes, we should talk about those. But there is another kind of narcissistic relationship that does not get nearly enough attention. The friendship. The best friend. The person you told everything to. The one who made you feel like you had finally found your person. Someone who got your humor, your history, your weird little patterns, your soft spots, your rage, your grief, your whole m...

You Already Have a Gaslighting Detector - From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ Communication + Clarity You Already Have a Built-In Gaslighting Detector There's a communication method that exposes a gaslighter every single time. Not because it's a trap - because it requires them to acknowledge reality. By Hollie Marble Here's something nobody warned me about when I was in it. I didn't just feel confused. I felt crazy. Not dramatic, quirky, "oh I'm such a mess" crazy - I mean I genuinely could not trust my own memory anymore. I would have a clear recollection of something that happened, something I lived through, and then watch it get dismantled in real time until I wasn't sure I'd experienced it at all. That's what gaslighting does. It doesn't just rewrite the story. It makes you doubt the person holding the pen. And here's what made it worse: ...

Forgiveness Doesn't Mean Reconciliation — From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ Forgiveness Doesn't Mean Reconciliation And You Don't Owe Them Either One By Hollie Marble Nobody warns you about the forgiveness police. You survive something devastating - something that took years off your life and rewired your nervous system - and then, before the dust has even settled, here they come. Your pastor. Your aunt. The inspirational quote on your cousin's Facebook wall. Forgiveness is for you, not for them. Let it go. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison. And maybe you nod. Maybe you even try. But somewhere underneath the nodding is a voice screaming - you have no idea what you're asking me to swallow instead. That's the thing about forgiveness advice - it almost always comes from people who have never been systematically dismantled by someone who claimed to love ...

Leaving A Toxic Relationship? Your No-Bullshit Guide For Getting Through The First Month | From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ From Gaslight to Daylight ♦ Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Recovery - The Early Days Leaving A Toxic Relationship? Your No-Bullshit Guide For Getting Through The First Month What actually happens in those thirty days - and how to survive it without losing your mind. By Hollie Marble  |  From Gaslight to Daylight Nobody sat me down and told me what the first month would actually feel like. Everyone said "you're so brave" and "you did the right thing" and "you're going to be so much happier." And I wanted to believe them. I really did. But in the first thirty days? Brave wasn't even in my vocabulary. Terrified was. Gutted was. What-the-hell-did-I-just-do was. I was free and I was falling and those two things felt exactly the same. So here's what I wish someone had actually said to me. ...